Parenting is hard. And I’m not meaning hard because it’s non stop caring for a tiny human and keeping them alive. Of course that part is hard, but I mean hard by keeping your feelings in line while trying to teach your kids how to be good humans. I hate having to discipline my kids. Luckily, I really don’t have to do it very often, but it does get done when needed. I am very proud of my youngins in how they behave. They have their moments, but we all do. But, when the time comes that they need to be reminded on how to act, it makes me feel terrible. I wonder if I punished them the correct way, was I too hard, did I go overboard at all? When it comes to discipline, I don’t like to do it in front of crowds. I prefer it be something we can discuss when there’s no commotion and go from there, and I don’t like for them to be embarrassed. I know that sounds silly and most will say “well they shouldn’t have acted out in a crowd!” Well I’ve got news for ya, it doesn’t happen very often so apparently the way my kids get punished works well. But anyways, it makes it hard when your child does act up, then you have someone talking behind you in a (gasps) ” I can’t believe he acted like that” . I’m talking about over something as petty as he didn’t say thank you, but instead smiled and put his head down. I was going to correct him when we left to head home, but with a comment like that I decided to get on to him and make him apologize. My son is one of the most polite kids I have ever met. He got an award for it in school for crying out loud. But, he is also very shy and doesn’t like to have attention on him. He was at his birthday party, anxiously opening gifts and ready to get back to skating and playing games. I promise you he is not ungrateful, he is a very grateful child. He may not always show it through his words, but he does through his actions. And, once again society shows us that it doesn’t matter how awesome you are all the time, the one time you do something someone doesn’t like or agree with, then you’re all of a sudden ungrateful (in my son’s case). This turned into more of a rant than an inspirational post, but I was upset with myself and with what happened. I was upset because I let someone else’s negative comments affect the way I handle MY child. I should have just let it roll off my back and ignore it, but I didn’t. So when I say parenting is hard, I mean that by trying to raise your kids to be good, making sure you show them the respect you want them to show, making sure you understand them and how to discipline when needed, and definitely trying to ignore others negative comments on small issues. Don’t let others tell you how to raise your kids. Sure, sometimes it takes a village, but at the end of the day you know to your child better than anyone. Just remember, God made YOU their Momma, and he doesn’t make mistakes. If you ever feel you’re not sure if you’re doing it right, ask him for guidance. God Bless you Momma’s and Daddy’s reading this! It’s a hard job, but you’re doing great!
I am Mandy Vinson and I am a singer/songwriter, author, blogger, and on occasion and dabble into poetry. I am a wife, a mother of two children and a child of God. My hobbies include playing games with my kids and spending time with my family, being outdoors, writing, playing guitar, and singing. View all posts by Mandy Vinson