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Take Advantage of the Extra Time

“You are so fun to play with mom” is what my 9 year old said to me as I was playing a game  on the trampoline with him and my daughter. If you know my son, he is not really the affectionate type, so I take statements like that as an “I really love you mom”. It brought a tear to my eye, warmed my heart, and made me smile pretty big I must say. Hearing my child sputter those words made me feel I was doing something right as a mom.

Before that, while my daughter was taking a nap, we had a pretty long in depth conversation about everything under the son. When I made the statement “I really enjoyed our conversation.” He responded with ” I did too mom.” My heart was beaming with joy.

During this time of being stuck at home, it’s not a punishment for me, it’s a blessing. I love being around my kids. I miss them every day when they are at school. Of course, with them being home, it puts a small hold on my writing being I’m homeschooling them and tending to them during the day, but that’s fine with me. I will squeeze in the time when I can.

Once our kiddos reach the school age, we are releasing them out into the world. They are no longer ours to keep. They are only home on the weekends and summer breaks, and soon we won’t even have that time. Take advantage of the extra time God gave you.

Make memories, play in the mud, go for walks, read stories. Regular life will start back up again eventually, they will be back to their regular routines and school schedules. I will be able to get back to my routine.  But for now I am enjoying this much needed time with my little’s and a slow down for me.  

Quarantine Routine

With schools closed and businesses closed it is hard to stick with a schedule. It’s hard to get into a routine to get school work done, or even your own work done. I especially have a struggle at times because if I don’t have to get up a 5 in the morning and rush around to get the kids to school on time, you can bet I’m going to sleep in and enjoy my morning.

But, if I’m not careful, the day can slowly slip away from me. Being I am also a routine type person, I have come up with a schedule that has been working great for my family. It allows us to still enjoy our days home and take a break from the everyday hustle, but also be able to stay on top of the work that needs to be done.

If you’re having trouble with a routine or being able to stay on top of school work, check out our routine.

Schedule goes as follows:

7am-8:30am: Wake up, bible study, breakfast

8:30am-10am: Get dressed, brush teeth, take vitamins, feed animals, play outside for a few

10am-10:30am: Start chores

10:30/11am-2pm: School work. I rotate the kiddos between computer work and worksheets. We break for lunch in between. During the programs that the kids don’t need much of my assistance with, I am able to squeeze in some writing time, organizing, or prepping supper.

After 2:00: WE ARE FREE! Play time out side until whenever. I don’t really even keep a straight bed time schedule right now, as long as they are asleep by 10pm we are doing great.

As I said before, while trying to stay in a routine or on a small schedule, we are also taking a break from the everyday hustle. Do we stick to this step by step, not every day. It’s more of a guideline to keep us on track. Especially Monday through Friday, on the weekends we wing it like normal.

 This is a crazy time right now so don’t forget to enjoy it and have some fun. We all need it. Now is also a great time to catch up on bible studies. We strive to read at least 3 bible stories in the mornings. No time is better than the present to praise our Lord and teach the young.

Now that our schoolwork and everything else is finished, Floor is Lava it is!

The Quarantine

“You are so fun to play with mom” is what my 9 year old said to me as I was playing a game  on the trampoline with him and his sister. If you know my son, he is not really the affectionate type, so I take statements like that as an “I really love you mom”.

Before that, while his sister was taking a nap, we had a pretty long in depth conversation about everything under the son. Again, when I made the statement “I really enjoyed our conversation.” He responded with ” I did too mom.”

During this time of being stuck at home, it’s not a punishment for me, it’s a blessing. I love being around my kids. I miss them every day when they are at school. Of course, with them being home, it puts a small hold on my writing being I’m homeschooling and tending to them during the day, but that’s fine with me. I will squeeze in the time when I can.

Once our kiddos reach the school age, we are releasing them out into the world. They are no longer ours to keep. They are only home on the weekends and summer breaks, and soon we won’t even have that time. Take advantage of the extra time God gave you.

Make memories, play in the mud, go for walks, read stories. Regular life will start back up again eventually, they will be back to their regular routines and school schedules. You will be able to get back to my routine.  But for now I am enjoying this much needed time with my little’s.

My house is not a showcase house

                My house is not a showcase house. There are toys on the floor, and on some furniture. There may be stains on the doors, and let’s face it, the carpet too. There will be dirty dishes in the kitchen sink and toothpaste in the bathroom sinks. Muddy clothes will most likely be scattered around my back porch rails and bikes and outside toys scattered around the yard.

                My house is not just my house, it is shared between myself, my husband and our two kids. Do we clean and do chores, yes we do, everyday. But we also like to have fun, make memories, and enjoy life. Our home is our home and our home is lived in.

                So if you come over unexpected, please do not be surprised or expect a glamour home or something you would find in a Better Homes and Garden magazine. Please do not expect the matching pillows and curtains, and do expect the Christmas blanket to still be out because it is quite comfy and the whole family fights over it.

                I don’t want a showcase house, I want a home, and that’s what I created. So, “Come on in and make yourself at home”.

The Spider Web

                My world consists of the saying “if it’s not one thing, it’s another. Total truth. For instance, we finally get our lawn mower fixed, now the blades are shot. One of my horses finally recovers from a hoof abscess, then another one ends up with some crazy skin issue. It’s always like we are finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, only to be pushed back down to the bottom. I finally get one thing going good and a million others fall apart. I truly can’t win for losing most times.

                I use to get so frustrated and aggravated at what seems to be a never ending cycle. I would almost fall apart and bury myself deeper down with a negative attitude. But not anymore. It’s much easier to embrace the struggles and trust that God will get you through them. The Lord never said we wouldn’t struggle, all though it would be nice if we didn’t. The Lord knows we will struggle, but he wants us to trust in him and not dwell on the hard times.

                Too many times we quit, because it gets too hard and we are just done. But why quit? So what if we get knocked down, so what if it gets hard at times. The outcome of what we were born to do and created to do, heck just existing is so much greater than quitting.

                Take note from the spider for instance, how many times does it weave a beautiful web only to have someone come knock it down. Does the spider just give up and stop making webs? If it did, I recon it would starve….

Can you see the web?

Let’s Talk Corona

In these times of the Corona Virus Pandemic I would like to address a few things:

1. If you are someone out there buying a year’s worth of diapers, wipes, toilet paper, paper towels, or whatever paper products when you have NEVER bought more than what you needed, YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM!

                Stores only stock what is bought on the norm and because of YOUR  panic there are mommas out there without diapers. Not everyone can afford to go on a mad hysteria run and “wipe” all the stores out of essentials. The things you should have bought was vitamins and medicines for if you were to get sick.  CALM DOWN!

2. If you are someone who is out there buying up all the baby formula and food…

                See above!

3. If you are someone who thinks this is “no big deal” so we should take the kids to the skating rink or let’s plan a family vacation….

                AGAIN, YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM.

Now is not a time to panic, but be vigilant. Panic has never solved or helped anything. Is this virus scary? Yes. Could there be a major shut down and this effect our economy? Yes. But with you out there buying everything and leaving others stranded is not going to help.

I know of someone who was not “panic” buying, but had a regular monthly shipment for diapers for her one year old. But, because of “panic” buyers, her shipment got cancelled without prior notification and now she can’t find diapers.

Maybe now is the time for some of you to dust off your bible and read. Stop thinking of yourself and think of others.

 Check on your elderly family,  friends and neighbors and the ones whose immunes systems could be compromised, they are the ones who have the most right to panic

That being said, stop crying because spring break could be ruined, stop whining over homeschooling, stop taking your kids to the skating rink and risking further spread because you don’t feel like “dealing” and stay home and be thankful for your health. Stay away from hospitals and doctors’ offices unless absolutely necessary. Don’t spread it being you don’t know if you have it. The CDC has said, not to go out or to the doctor unless you are having major symptoms.

Take some vitamins, teach your kids. Be a parent, enjoy some quarantine time, and stop the panic.  

Oh yea….and wash your hands. Sad I should have to say that, but the way folks are buying up hand sanitizer, cleaning products, and Lysol has me really questioning if folks have never cleaned their homes. I thought that was something that should have always been in stock in the average house hold. But hey, my mom was a nurse for over 20 years so she’s had to keep us safe from all the other previous outbreaks, viruses, diseases or whatever she came in contact with while working in hospitals and the prison systems. So maybe it’s only common sense for me.

Stay safe folks, wash your hands, and PLEASE for the love of God, STAY HOME unless you have to go out for essentials.

Turn to God

I use to think I wasn’t good enough to talk to God. Why would God want to communicate with a sinner like me? Especially when I would mess up, I would feel ashamed and hide myself from him. Just like I would my parents when I done something I knew I would get in trouble for.

But the truth is, that’s when God wants you to turn to him. Of course, he wants to see you at your best, but he wants you at your worst as well. He wants you to not be afraid, drop your guard, and put all your trust in him.

When you hide away, you miss all the little blessings he is doing in your life, because you’re not looking. We start relying on ourselves to fix problems because we are too ashamed to turn to him. When we do that we miss the suttle hints the Lord gives us. Maybe it’s to go down a path that doesn’t make since, so we end up relying on our own judgement and take the obvious path. Not realizing the Lord had an amazing plan.

How many times do we, as parents, try to guide our children in the right direction, only for them to still do what they want. We try to tell them they will hurt themselves if they continue on with what they’re doing. But, they don’t and continue on and get hurt. What happens next, they run back to us for comfort, guidance, and understanding. Plus an “I told you so”. But, they still run back to their parents.

Remember that next time you’re in a bad spot, or you feel like turning away from God. Maybe it’s because you are embarrassed or even angry, turn to him. Never let pride or anger keep you from going to the number one source that helps us through it all. Never feel like you’re not good enough or let shame stand in your way. The Lord is waiting on you, you just have to take the first step. And when things are going great, remember to stay humble.

My Dearest Husband

My dearest husband,

So many times I complain about being tired, the kids haven’t let me complete a task, I still have so much that needs to get done, but I’m running out of time and I don’t feel like completing it all. So, I put it off for another day then I just get overwhelmed all over again.

So many times do you listen, but I don’t think you’re hearing me because I know you have your own problems with work and your own to do lists. Why should I be complaining anyway, this is what I do, so I should do it, right.

But, what I don’t realize is how you do listen and you are paying attention. What I don’t do is thank you enough for everything you do and for being an amazing husband and father.

You put us before yourself, your happiness is us being happy. You love us with all your heart and bend over backwards to make sure we are cared for. You stand behind us, support us, and encourage us through our dreams and trials. You are our backbone.

I am so grateful for you and I am so glad god made you my life partner. I am grateful we were brought together. I am grateful for all that you do. Thank you my dearest husband for being all that you are. I love you!

Don’t let fear win

“I’m scared to make this serve,  Dad you serve.”  My 9 year old son said as he was handing the birdie to my husband. We were playing a game of badminton, girls against boys.  The score was close, 9-8 with the boys in the lead. My son was up to serve and if he got that point, they would win the game. He stood there nervously trying to hand the birdie off, but I told him no. “It’s your serve, so according to the rules you have to serve.”  “But momma, what if I don’t make it.” I told him at least he tried his best, but he needed to try and not let fear stop him.

He took a deep breath, tossed the birdie into the air, and served it beautifully. Me, being a competitive momma, well we are all competitive, went after that birdie fully fledged  and missed. My son was so ecstatic, jumping into the air. “Yes, Yes!” He screamed. My husband and I both congratulated him and prided  on facing his fear and going for it.

A lesson was taught in this victory. Even if it seems so small, my son learned to not let fear stop him from playing the game. We could have easily took the stress off of his shoulders and let my husband bend the rules and him serve. But what would that have taught him? What would he have learned? Instead, we let him know that it was ok if he failed, but at least he tried. He knew we would be proud either way.

Don’t let fear stop you from achieving your win.

Human

I am super excited to be working on this cover, so I wanted to share a bit of it with you along with the reason I am excited about it. I remember when this song came out. I remember watching the music video and listening to it over and over again. I would imagine myself playing a key board and singing the song (even though I didn’t know how to play the keyboard, or even guitar for that matter.)

I would sing my heart out because I could relate to this song so much. I always felt criticized and I was having to explain myself in everything I did. I felt like I wasn’t good enough and was trying to find myself.

At this point in time, being a songwriter, singing, playing guitar, heck writing period was only a thought. It was a thought that I never actually believed to be a reality because it’s not “realistic”. I always wanted to learn guitar, I’ve always loved singing and I’ve always loved writing. But, I was too shy and to insecure so who was I kidding. So I would sit there and just imagine and daydream.

Because of my husband pushing me to follow my dreams, look what song I happen to be learning now. Am I the best guitarist? No. Am I the best singer? No. Heck am I the best songwriter? No. But, dreams do come true when you work hard and believe in yourself. Just because it’s not “realistic” to someone else doesn’t mean it’s not for you. Work hard and follow your dreams.
Proverbs 16:3 
 Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be estabablished.